UKHALIDWE NDI CHIKONDI
Posachedwapa polankhulana ndi anzanga, ndazindikira kuti: khalidwe ndilo chinsinsi cha chitukuko cha bizinesi. Makhalidwe apamwamba komanso nthawi yoyenera amatha kukopa maoda ambiri amakasitomala. Aka ndi mfundo yoyamba yomwe ndapeza.
Mfundo yachiwiri yomwe ndikufuna kugawana ndi aliyense ndi nkhani ya tanthauzo lina la khalidwe. Ndikayang'ana mmbuyo ku 2012, ndidasokonezeka nthawi zonse ndipo palibe amene angandiyankhe. Ngakhale kuphunzira ndi kufufuza sikunathe kuthetsa kukayikira kwanga kwamkati. Sindinakhalepo mpaka ndidakhala masiku 30 ku India mu Okutobala 2012 osalumikizana ndi wina aliyense pomwe ndidazindikira: zonse zidakonzedweratu ndipo palibe chomwe chingasinthidwe. Chifukwa ndimakhulupirira za choikidwiratu, ndinasiya kuphunzira ndi kufufuza ndipo sindinkafunanso kufufuza chifukwa chake. Koma mnzangayo sanagwirizane nane, ndipo anandilipira kuti ndipite nawo m’kalasi ndikuphunzira za “Mphamvu ya Mbewu”. Zaka zingapo pambuyo pake, ndidapeza kuti zomwe zili mkatizi zinali gawo la "The Diamond Sutra".
Panthawiyo, chidziwitsochi ndidatcha chifukwa, kutanthauza kuti zomwe mumafesa ndi zomwe mumakolola. Koma ngakhale podziwa choonadi chimenechi, panalibe nthaŵi zopambana, zosangalatsa, zokhumudwitsa, ndi zopweteka m’moyo. Ndikakumana ndi zopinga ndi zovuta, mwachibadwa ndinkafuna kuimba mlandu ena kapena kuzembera udindo chifukwa zinali zosautsa ndi zowawa, ndipo sindinkafuna kuvomereza kuti zimenezi zinayambitsidwa ndi ine ndekha.
Kwa nthawi yaitali, ndinakhalabe ndi chizoloŵezi chimenechi chothamangira mavuto tikakumana nawo. Sipanafike kumapeto kwa chaka cha 2016 pamene ndinali wotopa mwakuthupi ndi m'maganizo pamene ndinayamba kuganiza: ngati mavutowa m'moyo amadza chifukwa cha ine ndekha, mavuto anga ali kuti? Kuyambira pamenepo, ndinayamba kuyang'ana mavuto anga, kuganiza za momwe angawathetsere, ndikuyesera kupeza zifukwa ndi njira zoganizira kuchokera pavuto kuti ndiyankhe. Zinanditengera milungu inayi nthawi yoyamba, koma pang'onopang'ono ndifupikitsa mphindi zochepa.
Tanthauzo la khalidwe si khalidwe la mankhwala, komanso limaphatikizapo chikhalidwe cha bizinesi, mlingo wa kasamalidwe, ubwino wachuma, ndi zina. Pa nthawi imodzimodziyo, khalidweli limaphatikizaponso maganizo, makhalidwe, ndi kaganizidwe kathu. Pokhapokha pakuwongolera mabizinesi ndi anthu payekhapayekha, titha kupita kunjira yopambana.
Ngati tiŵerenga bukhu lotchedwa “Karma Management” lerolino, limene limati zonse zimene tikukumana nazo masiku ano zimadza chifukwa cha karma yathu, mwina sitingadabwe kwambiri poyamba. Titha kumverera ngati tapeza chidziwitso kapena kuzindikira kwatsopano, ndipo ndi momwemo. Komabe, tikamapitiriza kuganizira zimene takumana nazo pa moyo wathu, timazindikira kuti chilichonse chimayamba chifukwa cha maganizo athu, mawu athu komanso zochita zathu. Kugwedezeka kwamtundu wotere sikungatheke.
Nthawi zambiri timaganiza kuti ndife anthu olondola, koma tsiku lina tikazindikira kuti talakwitsa, zotsatira zake zimakhala zazikulu. Kuyambira nthawi imeneyo mpaka pano, zomwe zakhala zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi kapena zisanu ndi ziwiri, nthawi iliyonse ndikawona mozama za zolephera zanga ndi zolepheretsa zomwe sindikufuna kuvomereza, ndimadziwa kuti zinayambitsidwa ndi ine ndekha. Ndine wotsimikiza za lamulo ili la causality. Ndipotu, zonse zomwe tikukumana nazo zimayamba chifukwa cha zikhulupiriro zathu kapena khalidwe lathu. Mbewu zomwe tidabzala m'mbuyomu zaphuka, ndipo zomwe tikupeza lero ndi zotsatira zomwe tiyenera kudzipezera tokha. Kuyambira Januware 2023, sindikukayikanso za izi. Ndimamva kumva kuti ndikumvetsetsa tanthauzo la kusakayikira.
Poyamba, ndinali munthu wosungulumwa ndipo sindinkakonda kucheza ndi anthu kapenanso kuchita zinthu zokumana maso ndi maso. Koma nditamvetsetsa bwino za lamulo la causality, ndinatsimikiza kuti palibe aliyense m’dzikoli amene angandipweteke ngati nditadzivulaza ndekha. Ndikuwoneka kuti ndakhala womasuka kwambiri, wokonzeka kucheza ndi anthu, ndikupita kukakumana maso ndi maso. Ndinali ndi chizolowezi chosapita kuchipatala ngakhale nditadwala chifukwa choopa kulankhulana ndi madokotala. Tsopano ndikumvetsa kuti iyi ndi njira yanga yodzitetezera kuti ndipewe kuvulazidwa ndikamacheza ndi anthu.
Mwana wanga anadwala chaka chino, ndipo ndinapita naye kuchipatala. Panalinso nkhani zokhudzana ndi sukulu ya mwana wanga komanso ntchito zogulira kampaniyo. Ndinali ndi malingaliro ndi zochitika zosiyanasiyana panthawi yonseyi. Nthawi zambiri timakumana ndi zinthu ngati izi: tikamaona munthu amene sangathe kumaliza ntchito yake pa nthawi yake kapena sangathe kuigwira bwino, chifuwa chimapweteka ndipo timakwiya. Ndi chifukwa tinapanga malonjezo ambiri okhudza ubwino ndi nthawi yobweretsera, koma sitingathe kuwasunga. Panthaŵi imodzimodziyo, tinkadalira anthu ena, koma anatikhumudwitsa.
Kodi chondichitikira chachikulu chinali chiyani? Apa m’pamene ndinapita ndi banja langa kwa dokotala ndipo ndinakumana ndi dokotala wina amene analankhula bwino koma sanathe kuthetsa vutolo. Kapena mwana wanga atapita kusukulu, tinkakumana ndi aphunzitsi opanda udindo, zomwe zinakwiyitsa kwambiri banja lonse. Komabe, tikasankha kugwirizana ndi ena, chikhulupiriro ndi mphamvu zimaperekedwanso kwa iwo. Pogula ntchito, ndakumananso ndi ogulitsa kapena makampani omwe amangolankhula zazikulu koma osatha kupereka.
Chifukwa ndimakhulupirira kwambiri lamulo la causality, poyamba ndidavomereza zotsatirazi. Ndinazindikira kuti ziyenera kukhala chifukwa cha mawu ndi zochita zanga, motero ndinayenera kuvomereza zotulukapo zoterozo. Koma achibale anga anali okwiya komanso okwiya kwambiri, poona kuti akuchitiridwa zinthu mopanda chilungamo m’derali ndipo n’zopweteka kwambiri. Choncho, ndiyenera kusinkhasinkha mozama za zochitika zomwe zinayambitsa zotsatira za lero.
Pochita izi, ndinapeza kuti aliyense akhoza kungoganiza zopanga ndalama pamene ayamba bizinesi kapena kufunafuna ndalama, popanda kukhala katswiri poyamba asanapereke chithandizo kapena kulonjeza ena. Ndinalinso chonchi. Tikakhala osadziwa, tikhoza kuvulaza anthu ena m’dera lathu, ndiponso tikhoza kuvulazidwa ndi anthu ena. Ichi ndi chowonadi chomwe tiyenera kuvomereza chifukwa tachitadi zinthu zambiri zomwe zimapweteketsa makasitomala athu.
Komabe, m’tsogolomu, tingasinthe zinthu zina kuti tisadzibweretsere mavuto komanso kuvulaza anthu amene timawakonda pamene tikufunafuna ndalama komanso kuchita zinthu bwino. Ili ndiye lingaliro lomwe ndikufuna kugawana ndi aliyense za khalidwe.
N’zoona kuti ndalama n’zofunika kwambiri pa ntchito yathu chifukwa sitingakhale ndi moyo popanda ndalamazo. Komabe, ndalama, ngakhale kuti n’zofunika, si chinthu chofunika kwambiri. Ngati tibzala mavuto ambiri pakupanga ndalama, pamapeto pake, ife ndi okondedwa athu tidzakhala ndi zotsatirapo muzochitika zosiyanasiyana za moyo, zomwe palibe amene akufuna kuziwona.
Ubwino ndi wofunika kwambiri kwa ife. Choyamba, zingatibweretsere malamulo ambiri, koma chofunika kwambiri, tikupanganso chisangalalo chabwino kwa ife eni ndi okondedwa athu m'tsogolomu. Tikagula zinthu kapena ntchito zimene anthu ena amatipatsa, tithanso kupeza ntchito zapamwamba kwambiri. Ichi ndiye chifukwa chachikulu chomwe timatsindika zaubwino. Kutsata khalidwe ndi chikondi chathu pa ife eni ndi mabanja athu. Ndilo malangizo omwe tonse tiyenera kuyesetsa limodzi.
Kudzipereka kotheratu ndiko kudzikonda kotheratu. Timatsata zabwino osati kungokonda makasitomala athu kapena kuwona maoda, koma koposa zonse, kudzikonda tokha komanso okondedwa athu.
